HOW TO KNOW IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU

Before I met my husband, I was in this relationship were I had to keep asking myself or my partner if he really loves me because I just didn’t know.

If you have have ever found yourself asking this questions you are not alone.

I feel men really have to understand women and know they want to feel loved. As much as actions speak louder than words, words are still as important. The first thing Eve heard when she was created was “This is the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh.” That’s how God created us. I don’t want to assume you love me I want to hear you say it and then back it up with actions. I knew my husband Bella loved me when he didn’t fail to remind me everyday how much he loves me and back it up with actions. You see how I link this 2 together, it’s because they are equally important in a relationship. I know most people now a days are flippant with the word love so if a man shows you he doesn’t love you, sis you better believe it. If you and your partner have exchanged the three magic words-“I love you”- and you still find you are not confident that the love is there then this post is for you.

5 signs he loves you

1- HE RESPECTS YOU

Respect and love go hand in hand. You can’t say you love me and don’t respect my values and principles. A man may not agree with you but he needs to respect your choices, your time, you body and your thoughts.

One of the questions my husband always asks me is “WHAT DO I WANT.” He goes ahead to listen and give me his perspective but the conclusion is always on what I want.

2- HE INTRODUCES YOU TO THE PEOPLE THAT MATTERS TO HIM

If a man loves you he is going to be very proud of you. He is going to introduce you to important people in his life. I know some people are private. They may not post you all over social media or publicize on billboards, However, you cannot be so private that nobody in the world knows about you. He is either doing that because you are not the only one or he’s not serious with you. So if you don’t know anyone in his life after a couple months of dating and you ask and he still says away from that run sis run.

Just after a couple months of dating my husband he introduced me to his mum and finally went on to introduce me to his entire family. When a man introduces you to his mum know he is serious about you. He shouldn’t introduce you only to his friends because they may be unto his scam.

3- HE MAKES TIME FOR YOU(MAKES YOU HIS PRIORITY)

We have 24 hours in a day and each day you have to make out time for the most important things in your life. We make out time for work because we need the money to pay our bills. If his complains daily is he doesn’t have time to call, text or do something special for you, he doesn’t love you. He should have time to at least text hi no matter how busy he is.

My husband and I were in a long distance relationship for about a year and half and we spoke everyday even amid the crisis when internet was cut from the southwest region in Cameroon.

I hear things like on our first date he stood me up and you gave him an opportunity for the second date. If he can’t make out time to give you a concrete explanation he’s not worth it because he will do it again.

4- HE GIVES YOU SECURITY

If everyone had a good relationship, there will be less problems. Most problems stem from a disfunction in a family. Abandonment issues, lack of love, abusive relationships and so on. That’s the reason God created Adam and then Eve first before anything else. The way your dad treats you is the way you will form opinions on men.

The way my dad supports my mum and my siblings is un beatable. The way he loved me I already knew what I deserved and wanted in a man. He made me feel safe just like my husband makes me feel safe.

My husband supports me and never took sides with his family against me. Women need security. They need to know you have their back at all times. They need to feel safe in your arms.

5- YOU ARE HIS BEST FRIEND

You keep hearing things like he has to be your best friend. Yes that’s very important. It’s not easy for men to be vulnerable so if he is comfortable with sharing and talking about everything, you guys can gist for hours he loves you.

6- HE SHOWS INTEREST IN THE FUTURE WITH YOU

Someone who loves you is going to include you in his future. You see women are dreamers. We have the name of our kids even before we meet the right man to marry. Even if it’s just a boyfriend of few weeks he is already talking about future dates. After couple of months he should start making future plans with you. When you will get married or have kids or start a business together. These are signs he is picturing you as part of his future, or actively incorporating you into his future plans.

These are just some of the major things you should look out for if you really want to know if he loves you. If you are reading this you should probably be having some doubts in your relationship and I hope this helps you resolve your doubt. Love goes both ways. If you want him to treat you like a queen treat him like a king. Only if you know you are giving your all and he isn’t then the question “Does he love me” can be genuinely answered.

So tell me how did you know your partner loved you?